What’s the one thing you must have in order to be completely likable? It’s not your mannerisms; it’s not the phrases you use, or even some of the actions you take. Whereas these aforementioned ideas are all tips and tricks you can consciously learn and adopt, to be completely likable requires an inner confidence, one that radiates outwards into all the actions and conversations you have.
It’s important to be confident in your past, present, and future, and not be weighed down by negative conceptions of yourself or self-limiting thoughts. As if by magic, these thoughts radiate outward and affect you in your body language and how you interact with people. The good news is that positive thoughts also radiate outward and showcase confidence.
The next time you’re in the supermarket line, notice some of the people in the line—just by looking at their body language and how they carry themselves, do they seem like they like themselves? Or do they seem like they’re in a slump?
Keep in mind the phrase:
This is something you can apply to every situation you come across. If you were bullied as a child, perhaps you thought negatively of yourself as weak and vulnerable. But that’s the meaning that you yourself have ascribed to the event. Instead, you can think of the event as a time where you were learning to recognize signs of trouble in social situations—there is always something to be gained, a lesson to be learned from every experience. If you can reframe the event as a lesson or a gain in knowledge instead of a failure, you’re already on the road to liking and trusting in yourself, which in turn will make you a likable person!
Stay positive, stay tuned, and stay awesome!